I am not for equal rights.

There. I said it. Let the grandstanding, mudslinging, name-calling, et cetera, begin.

Specifically, I do not subscribe to this notion that women are equal to men.

Likewise, men are not equal to women.

If I asked any kid who had a basic grasp of mathematical principles what the word “equal” meant, he could probably explain to me something like “If A = B, then B must also equal A.” Or, A is the same as B. If we’re talking quantities, yes, that’s true. If Annie has 2 apples, and Billy has 2 bananas, then they have an equal number of pieces of fruit.

Are apples the same as bananas? They are fruit, but the similarities end there. Apples are roundish, smooth, usually kind of shiny, and they come in red or green. They crunch when you bite into them. Apples are juicy, and they have a core, and seeds. Bananas are yellow, shaped, well, bananas. Like the letter “C” that someone gave up on.  They’re smooth, but they don’t have the same feel as an apple. Bananas are soft and mushy, a preferred food for babies. There are no seeds inside and even their nutritional values are different from an apple’s.

With those in mind, are apples and bananas equal? There is no doubt that they are both valuable foods, and the world would be a darker place without them. They are both good, but no, they are not equal. Equal in value, perhaps, but in this case, A does not equal B.

So it is with men and women. Men and women have different characteristics. We are built for different things. Modern society would have us believe otherwise, but it’s true. Biologically, right down to our very genes, a man is different from a woman. In the labs, they call this “XY” and “XX”. Male chromosomes are labeled “XY”, female “XX”. When conception happens, no matter what, the mother’s ovum is delivering an “X” chromosome. The father’s sperm will deliver either an “X” or a “Y”, and in that way the sex of the baby is determined. Makes it more than slightly ironic, all those kings who blamed their queens for producing daughters, when it was their sperm that actually made the determination, isn’t it? It’s also why there’s no such thing as “transgendered” or a “sex change”. A man can cut off his penis and testicles and take estrogen, or a woman cut off her breasts and have a penis and testicles built and take testosterone, but there is no changing the genes. What one is born with, one will die with.

Look in the mirror, and take a picture of someone of the opposite sex with you. Doesn’t matter who, although one of a sibling may make these differences more pronounced, but it could be a magazine model. Start with the lines of the face. A man’s lines will be stronger, sharper, especially around the jaw. There may be the shadow of facial hair, the 5:00 shadow, or maybe it’s grown out to a mustache, beard, or goatee. Men generally have a stronger chin, a heavier brow. Society usually dictates that a man’s hair is much shorter, cut above the top of the ears. Women’s faces are softer, more gentle. The curve of the cheek is more rounded, the cheekbones, though visible, not as heavy as a man’s. There is often even a different look to the eyes. Nothing specific, just a notable difference. His eyes will say, “I am a man.” Hers will say, “I am a woman.”

It is not surprising then, that little girls are drawn to play house with dollies, and even lacking a realistic toy doll, will make one out of whatever is available. Laura Ingalls Wilder’s first doll, “Susan”, was a corncob. While they do, their brothers are more likely to be out running and roughhousing in the mud with games like “cops and robbers” and “cowboys and indians” or anything involving soldiers. At an early age, girls are more often drawn to music,  arts and crafts. They gravitate toward activities that are engaging mentally as well as physically – ballet, gymnastics, lyrical, jazz, tap, and modern dance. Boys gravitate toward team sports – football, soccer, baseball, lacrosse.

American classrooms have ignored these basic differences in males and females and made education a living hell for boys. They are expected to sit still, be quiet, and pay attention indoors for long periods of time. In other words, they are expected to act like girls. When they fidget, talk, and generally disrupt the class, they are punished. Even at recess, if they get an outdoor recess, they are discouraged from running, jumping climbing, and playing any of the make-believe games I mentioned above. Again, they are prevented from acting like boys. Modern playgrounds, in the name of accessibility and safety, are all but wrapped in lambs’ wool. There are no trees to climb or dirt to play in. There are no mud puddles to explore. We wonder why so many of our boys are “diagnosed” with ADD and ADHD.

I’m not saying little girls don’t like this, too, or that boys don’t like music and dance. Fathers, for the sake of your sons’ future wives, please understand that women find few things more attractive than a man who can tell one note from another and is able to make his way around the dance floor with a basic working knowledge of things like the waltz, Foxtrot, salsa, et cetera. I know highly respected women in the United States Army, Air Force, and Coast Guard who I would definitely choose first for my “Live Through the Zombie Apocalypse” team.

What I am saying is that men and women are different. In a culture that is so wrapped up in diversity, we have forgotten that one, extremely important difference. In the name of “equality”, we have forgotten “compliment”.

Men and women are not equal.

Men and women are two halves of a whole.

A yin and a yang.

The Rhett to her Scarlett.

The Leia to his Han.



Filed under humanity, men and women, pop culture

2 responses to “I am not for equal rights.

  1. humanizehumanity

    While I’m sure the title is phrased that way just to grab attention I must say that being different is no ground to not be given the same rights.

    Furthermore, while a statistical difference is not impossible (and actually quite plausible) how do we prevent people to project it to an individual level? I mean, if we pick one man and one woman at random we can’t really say anything certain about who is stronger/taller/whatever. However some people tend to think that we can do that anyway, which leads to discrimination.

    Also, while the XX and XY take on sex seems to clearly define people as one or the other we must keep in mind that biology often is quite messy. For example some people are born with XXY.


    • Hi, and thanks for your comment.

      With regards to the title, contemporary politics have blurred the line between “equality” and “special” rights, in promoting the special interests of one group over another. Nowhere is this more obvious than the “feminism” movement that holds abortion-on-demand as its greatest (dubious) achievement. At no time until the child is born does its father, who provided exactly one-half of that child’s DNA, have a say in what happens to that baby. The mother’s “right” to murder her baby is considered what is needed to put her on “equal” footing with males, who are biologically incapable of carrying a child. Yet if the mother chooses to keep and care for the baby, the father is then expected to provide financial support for the next 18 years. Where are his rights then? What if he would have preferred to abort* the child?

      In the political sphere, “equal” rights are whatever the popular position of the day says they are. The only rights we need are those spelled out and secured in the Declaration of Independence: “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness”.

      With regards to your comment about biology, it is definitely messy. However, mutations of the 23rd chromosome (the sex chromosome) are rare. Females with Turner’s Syndrome often die before birth, and the syndrome affects roughly 1 in 2000-5000 infants. Triple-X syndrome is slightly less rare (1 in 1,000 births) and not much is known about it. Klinefelter affects 1 in 500-1000 males and is often concurrent with Down Syndrome. XYY, also known as Jacobs Syndrome, is difficult to trace and those that have it are usually unaware. It may be as common as 1 in 900 births or as rare as 1 in 2,000** Because these abnormalities are so rare, unless one is specifically writing about chromosomal abnormalities in humans, the typical XX and XY genotypes are acceptable generalizations.

      *I am in no way condoning or supporting abortion, but using the situation as an example only.

      **The website I garnered the information from (http://anthro.palomar.edu/abnormal/abnormal_5.htm) did not signify if these statistics were narrowed down to only live births.


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